Tusshar Kapoor is not just an actor and a producer but is also a proud father who is raising his son single-handedly. The 44-year-old, who welcomed Laksshya via surrogacy in 2016, says that being a father has made him a better version of himself.
“It has made me more responsible, confident, organized, and sorted as a human being. It has made me more grateful, satisfied, and happier as a person. There are lots of adjectives and it has changed my life so in that sense, fatherhood has made me a better version of myself,” he told Opoyi in an interview.
Tusshar is one of the very few single fathers in the Bollywood Industry who is setting an example that a child needs love no matter if it is coming from a mother or a father.
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Talking about the most beautiful part of his life, he said, “My happiest moments are when I spend time with my son.”
“It has obviously made me value life more, something to look forward to, and someone to love so it has made my life more worthwhile. As a person when you are grateful and happy from within and when you are in true love with somebody who is part of you then that is the most beautiful feeling in this world. So whatever love can do to a human being, my son has done to me because I love him the most and he is the most precious gift to me from God,” he said.
Talking about societal taboos related to single parents, the actor says that myths about them have definitely died down.
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“….because everyone can see how hands-on parent I am and there is no such thing as a perfect father, perfect mother or a perfect family, it’s all about how much you are willing to do for your child. How much you are willing to sacrifice, how responsible you are, how devoted you are, and how focused you are. The structure of the family doesn’t matter, what matters is the way the child is brought up and how unconditionally loved the child feels about himself or herself
“So, if there are any myths, I don’t really worry about them. In the last few years, a lot of myths have broken down and we have seen the changing dynamic of the family system in India in many ways and it’s not just through single fathers or mothers but in many other ways also,” he said.
His message to single parents?
“My message to single fathers or mothers or parents, in general, is don’t undermine yourself. Whether you are married or unmarried, everyone is destined to be a certain way and to start a family a certain way. If you find your true calling, be proud of it and be happy. Just try to be as better a father or a mother as you can because that’s all we can do.
The rest is not in our hands but in God’s hands and obviously in the children’s hands because everything can’t be done by a mother or father. The child has to figure out things for himself or herself also so it’s a combination of a lot of factors but feel blessed that at least you got the chance to mother or father another human being who’s entirely yours and whom you can nurture all your life so god bless you with that,” he sums up.
